What's the Shape of Your Family + Giveaway Winners

Published: Tue, 06/06/17

Hi

Yesterday I shared a big giveaway we hosted to celebrate my dad's new book.

The winners of the House of Belonging sign + Family book pack are:

Jane // janebaker.birkelbach@xxxxxxx

Ericka // eekawood@xxxxx

Congrats ladies!


It's a great summer read and you can start to apply all the simple truths at the family reunion and on the beach next to your mother-in-law.


Guess who got to write the foreword to dad's new book? Me and my baby sister, Emily. I thought I'd share it today to celebrate dad's book release...


We always knew Dad had a book in him, we just figured one of us would have to write it. Dad has been taking notes on God and life and family for the past twenty-eight years, first, filling up stacks of lined yellow legal pads and four-by-six index cards, then in his iPhone, now in this book.

This is a bigger deal than you can possibly know for two reasons. 

First, Dad never learned to type with his hands in the correct typing position, so this whole manuscript was pecked out with two index fingers and a whole lot of heart. 
But this is also a big deal because, aside from his impressive two-finger typing skills, Dad wasn’t a believer for most of our childhood. He didn’t even go to church for show or duty. Instead, he stayed home every Sunday morning, drank beer, and listened to Bruce Springsteen records. 

We still remember the morning he re-enacted the concert version of Born in the USA for us in the living room, a rare Sunday when Mom went to church without us girls. He dimmed the lights, cranked the stereo, and lip-synced the whole thing, complete with white t-shirt and red hat in his back pocket.




But life with Dad when we were little wasn’t always so lighthearted. Most of our childhood memories include an alcoholic Dad who was there but not fully present, alive but not fully awake. Until one day Dad stopped drinking and a while after that, he told us he accepted Jesus. That’s when the story gets interesting.

This book is about what happened next, about how a man who never had a proper role model of healthy family life learned to be a husband and father so that we can never say we didn’t have a proper role model of healthy family life.

As his daughters, we have had a front-row seat to the difference God makes in the life of a person. We finally got to see the man Dad was always meant to be.

This unlikely story of grace and forgiveness will help cast a hopeful vision for you if you’re desperate for some accessible encouragement and practical advice. Dad’s gentle instruction will be a kind companion for you in the midst of your own difficult family relationships.

It’s a rare kind of weird gift when your dad writes a book because you get to see him as a person and not just a dad. He talks about Mom as his best friend, not the kind who get air-brushed t-shirts made with each other's faces on them, but more the kind where he says something semi-dumb and then Mom rolls her eyes and instead of being defensive he just laughs. Meanwhile all the grandkids are watching how they act and are taking notes on how to be an adult. 
So that’s who you’re settling down with as you read this book. 


Dad is a man who is often out of the loop when we get together with Mom because he can’t keep up with our laughing and talking but he loves to be in the room anyway.
 
He’s a Poppy who co-plans Grandy Camp with Mom every summer to host all six grandkids, complete with opening and closing ceremonies.
 
He’s an introvert who loves people and a chronic encourager who always chooses hope, even in the darkness.
 
Most of all, Dad is a believer who knows his sufficiency rests in the person of Jesus Christ and lives like it’s true.
 
He loves well, with lots of grace and curiosity and his philosophy of family is both simple and oddly profound. We’re proof – we all actually like each other and when we fight, we always make up.
 
-- Myquillyn and Emily, Gary and Brenda’s girls
 
P.S. In this book you’ll meet a man named Harold who we remember as a wise friend of Dad’s who had a gentle disposition and always wore a green sport coat. We always knew Harold helped shape our family’s dynamics as Dad's mentor, but now we feel like we should set aside one special day a year to wear small green jackets in his honor. Thanks, Harold.
 
P.P.S. If you wish you had a Harold in your own life but don’t, we’re pretty sure Dad can be like Harold for you in this book. Green jacket optional.